Comparison is the Thief of Joy

Do you often have the feeling that whatever you do is not good enough? If the answer is yes, take a moment to consider whether it could be the result of comparing yourself with others. Today, talent, success and intelligence is highly rated in the society we live in. Like it or not, people tend to compare us with one another.

No wonder so many of us are so miserable today.

To deal with the enemy, we need to start understanding the enemy. Let’s take good look at what comparison is capable of and what you can do to deal with it.

Comparison Stops You from Getting Started

You may be thinking of starting a small business in an area you are passionate about. You look at what is already in the market and find that there are long established businesses out there with great products and services. You simply feel you cannot match the standard. You give up before you even start. Failing to take even the first step towards a potentially successful venture.

Comparison Tests Your Passion

Like all obstacles, comparison can be a test. It gauges passion. When you are passionate in something, few things seems to matter. Fierce competition may abound, yet passion drives you to face comparison fearlessly. The passion you have will cause you to overlook the comparison of yourself to others. This increases your chance at succeeding. If you are an entrepreneur, take note, venture capitalists favor those who are passionate, creative and talented. If you have the passion, you will carry on despite all the comparisons at hurled at you. Where passion lacks, comparison thrives.

Comparison is Often Superficial and Unfair

Let’s say you are thinking of starting a blog. You certainly cannot compare with bloggers who have been around for years. Surely the successful ones have a large following gathered over the years. In the same way, we cannot compare ourselves with people who may have years of experience in doing something we’ve only been trying out for weeks. Those you compare yourself to may have resources to carry out certain development or plans to accelerate their growth. It will be unfair to compare yourself in this way.

For all the successful people you compare yourself to, do you know what they had to go through to get to where they are today? How much did they have to sacrifice over the years? The times when they had to suffer various trials, rejections, unexpected market down turns. What did it cost them? Have you paid the same price? Very often, comparison is extremely superficial and ignores a lot of details.

Comparison Makes You Forget

Comparison makes you forget the better part of yourself. Your focus is turned to achieving what someone else has. Do not forget that everyone is unique. Appreciating your own uniqueness and growing to your full unique potential brings you more self-worth than trying to emulate the success of others. Take the time to grow and mature, pay some school fees along the way and hit some walls but keep moving. Making small yet consistent progress is far more profitable in the long run than trying take big leaps that comparison tends to tempts you with.

The Best Person to Compare Yourself To

If our objective is to be the best compared to others, it’s a steep mountain to climb. It will be expensive, exhaustive and seemingly endless. There will also always be higher mountains to climb. Perhaps there is someone you can honestly compare with. Compare with yourself. Seek to better yourself, as you grow and develop in different areas. Not only does it bring you joy and satisfaction when you improve, comparison in this way is absolutely fair.

Look and Learn from Others

You can admire and learn from those who have arrived. Value whatever they can share about their journey. Learn and gain insights from their endeavors. Not making comparison does not mean you stop looking at others. They can serve as a great motivation to you. Everyone has to start from somewhere. Where did they start from and how did they do it? Can you learn something from them?

Benchmark Others against Themselves

Make up your mind to stop comparing yourself with others, apply it on others as well. See and compare others with no one else except themselves. Tell them if they have improved when they better themselves. Forgo the thought that they are not good compared to others.

Get Your Joy Back

Fortunately, we don’t have to compare ourselves with others and it is a choice we can make everyday. Don’t let others rob you of your joy when they compare you to others. Just continue growing as yourself. Look forward, not to your left, right or backwards. Make that journey of self discovery and enjoy being and growing as yourself.

A Short Guide to Buying a Domain Name for First Time Buyers

Folks, if you’ve been thinking of owning a piece of your own action on the Internet and have full control over it, get a domain name.

Here’s what you need to know, consider and do if you are a first time buyer.

Top-Level Domain (TLD)

TLD is a term used to describe the part of the domain that appears as .com, .net or .org. It may surprise you that there are more that a thousand TLDs out there.  See Wikipedia for the comprehensive List of Internet top-level domains.

As for those of you who are first time domain buyers, the list of TLDs option for you is much shorter.

Original Top-Level Domain
.com, .org, .net – These are still the most popular TLD registered today, with .com being the all time favorite. You can’t go wrong with it.

Country Code Top-Level Doman
Depending on where you live, the country code TLD is fixed for the country you live in. For example, if you live in Pakistan, .pk is an option for you. There may be extra requirements when registering this type of TLD. Some countries require extra information like business registration details.

ICANN-Era Generic Top-Level Domains
.science, .top, .club, .link, .website, .work, .rocks, .guru, .army, .sale, .space, .school, .systems, etc, etc, etc.

The range for this TLD type has recently seen the introduction of hundreds of new TLDs. The list just keeps growing. If you know what you are doing by choosing this TLD then go ahead. Otherwise, just stick to the original or country code TLD. While it may look or sound cool, there are many reasons to avoid going for this TLD. One good reason for avoiding this type of TLD is that most people can’t tell if it is a domain name or something else.

Second-Level Domain (SLD)

This is normally the first thing most people think about when it comes to owning a domain name. What should I call it? The answer will be the second-level domain (SLD) part of the domain name.

Now, time to put your creative side of your brain to work. Just like real estate property, you have to check if the domain name is available for sale. Follow these steps to arrive at a domain you can register.

Steps to Finding a domain name

  1. Take a piece of paper and pen.
  2. Goto, or any other registrar of your choice.
  3. Enter the domain name, without the .com (TLD). Search
  4. Write down what you search in step 3 and list any domain name including the TLD which is available.
  5. Repeat steps 3 and 4 with a few names you have in mind.
  6. From the list of available domain names, short list those best suited for your purpose.

Think Out of the Box

You will begin to notice that searching for good domain names may not be as easy as it seems. It takes patients and lots of creativity. (Except if you are trying to register your name). Anything that is easy to think of and sounds common would most probably be taken. Don’t hope to find single words, common phrases, common two words combination or any three-letter domain name.

Think out of the box for a really good domain name. Don’t settle for less than good. The success of a website begins with a good domain name.

Be patient when searching for that perfect domain name. It may take anywhere from a few hours to even a few days.

Here’s a tool to help you think of different name combinations.

Some Criteria for choosing a domain name.

Choose a fairly short name which is easy to spell and easy to remember. Twitter has a username length limit of 15 characters. Use this a guide to limit the length of your domain name. In case you setup a twitter account that follows after your domain name, it will not be over the username character limit. Avoid using hyphens in domain names.

What to do if the domain you want is taken?

There’s always a chance you can still acquire the domain name even if someone has already own it. It may be available for sale by the owner. Manually type in the domain name in the browser and have a look at the website. There is a chance the website shows no real content and is up for sale. However, be prepared to pay a much higher price for the domain found this way.

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Other places to look for good domain names.

If you have deep pockets, you may wish to look at some of the popular domain brokers for good domain names. Here’s a short list to start with.

Once you have found your domain,  make the domain purchase using a credit card. Register anywhere from 1 to 10 years.


When you register a domain, your name will appear as the owner of the domain available for public viewing. If you want some privacy, include WhoisGuard subscription when purchasing the domain name.

Discount Coupon Codes

Search for coupons codes online to get discount when you buy your domain. Google the keyword coupon and the registrar name. There are numerous websites out there giving out free monthly coupon code information. Occasionally, certain registrars may offer limited time offers on certain TLDs.

Domain Name Renewal

Most domain registrar provide automatic renewal option to help you avoid loosing your domain when it expires. In any case, it is always good to provide your primary email when you register your domain. The reason for this is that you will be reminded of the expiration of your domain name when it draws near. If you miss your renewal period there is a grace period for renewal after the domain expires.

The hard part in buying a domain is figuring out the name you want and checking if it is available for registration. The easy part really is paying for it.