Do you often have the feeling that whatever you do is not good enough? If the answer is yes, take a moment to consider whether it could be the result of comparing yourself with others. Today, talent, success and intelligence is highly rated in the society we live in. Like it or not, people tend to compare us with one another.
No wonder so many of us are so miserable today.
To deal with the enemy, we need to start understanding the enemy. Let’s take good look at what comparison is capable of and what you can do to deal with it.
Comparison Stops You from Getting Started
You may be thinking of starting a small business in an area you are passionate about. You look at what is already in the market and find that there are long established businesses out there with great products and services. You simply feel you cannot match the standard. You give up before you even start. Failing to take even the first step towards a potentially successful venture.
Comparison Tests Your Passion
Like all obstacles, comparison can be a test. It gauges passion. When you are passionate in something, few things seems to matter. Fierce competition may abound, yet passion drives you to face comparison fearlessly. The passion you have will cause you to overlook the comparison of yourself to others. This increases your chance at succeeding. If you are an entrepreneur, take note, venture capitalists favor those who are passionate, creative and talented. If you have the passion, you will carry on despite all the comparisons at hurled at you. Where passion lacks, comparison thrives.
Comparison is Often Superficial and Unfair
Let’s say you are thinking of starting a blog. You certainly cannot compare with bloggers who have been around for years. Surely the successful ones have a large following gathered over the years. In the same way, we cannot compare ourselves with people who may have years of experience in doing something we’ve only been trying out for weeks. Those you compare yourself to may have resources to carry out certain development or plans to accelerate their growth. It will be unfair to compare yourself in this way.
For all the successful people you compare yourself to, do you know what they had to go through to get to where they are today? How much did they have to sacrifice over the years? The times when they had to suffer various trials, rejections, unexpected market down turns. What did it cost them? Have you paid the same price? Very often, comparison is extremely superficial and ignores a lot of details.
Comparison Makes You Forget
Comparison makes you forget the better part of yourself. Your focus is turned to achieving what someone else has. Do not forget that everyone is unique. Appreciating your own uniqueness and growing to your full unique potential brings you more self-worth than trying to emulate the success of others. Take the time to grow and mature, pay some school fees along the way and hit some walls but keep moving. Making small yet consistent progress is far more profitable in the long run than trying take big leaps that comparison tends to tempts you with.
The Best Person to Compare Yourself To
If our objective is to be the best compared to others, it’s a steep mountain to climb. It will be expensive, exhaustive and seemingly endless. There will also always be higher mountains to climb. Perhaps there is someone you can honestly compare with. Compare with yourself. Seek to better yourself, as you grow and develop in different areas. Not only does it bring you joy and satisfaction when you improve, comparison in this way is absolutely fair.
Look and Learn from Others
You can admire and learn from those who have arrived. Value whatever they can share about their journey. Learn and gain insights from their endeavors. Not making comparison does not mean you stop looking at others. They can serve as a great motivation to you. Everyone has to start from somewhere. Where did they start from and how did they do it? Can you learn something from them?
Benchmark Others against Themselves
Make up your mind to stop comparing yourself with others, apply it on others as well. See and compare others with no one else except themselves. Tell them if they have improved when they better themselves. Forgo the thought that they are not good compared to others.
Get Your Joy Back
Fortunately, we don’t have to compare ourselves with others and it is a choice we can make everyday. Don’t let others rob you of your joy when they compare you to others. Just continue growing as yourself. Look forward, not to your left, right or backwards. Make that journey of self discovery and enjoy being and growing as yourself.